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Unlocking Entrepreneurship: Seizing Opportunities When Baby Sleeps!
Starting a business while caring for a young child might seem like an impossible feat, but for many parents, the arrival of a new baby brings unexpected opportunities and creative endeavors.
This Mompreneur had just moved to a new city and was establishing her new business. They wanted to enjoy their new life and business in their new hometown, but their child was not sleeping well. Both parents were so exhausted and unmotivated and feeling frustrated.
They were desperate to find pockets of time to pursue their entrepreneurial dreams.
This is when they contacted me. Time was of the essence as their child was 18 months and they felt they are already “lost time”. Within 2 weeks, we made tremendous improvement.
Suddenly they had time and bandwidth for brainstorming ideas or carving out focused work sessions during nap times, Both Parents Got their Life Back so they could enjoy their new life in a new city and grow their own business.
“It is the BEST MONEY WE EVER SPENT. My advice is do not wait to get help. Your baby and life will be better. It's Incredible. I felt guilty and kept asking myself, "why can't I help my baby sleep well". Me and my husband kept thinking our daughter would "just figure it out" and so we kept putting it off. At age 18 months, we were feeling desperate. When we called Joanna, she was understanding. Together we created a good sleep plan and encouraged us to keep going...we felt good as parents. Most importantly, our daughter is sleeping. She is so happy now. We have a routine for naps and night time. We know the day will go well. I am now sleeping well too. I now have the focus and energy to work and my business is sky rocketing. Joanna, We are so thankful you. We recommend you all the time and when we have another baby we will call you!”
So, if you are feeling a newfound drive and creativity sparking new entrepreneurial endeavors, but your child’s sleep struggles is taking up too much of your time, please know there is help and hope available. You do not have to delay your dreams. With the help from a sleep coach, along with your determination and strategic time management, launching a business, alongside caring for a young child, becomes not only feasible, but a testament to your incredible adaptability and resilience.
Are you struggling with your child’s sleep? Could you use some support?
The first step to see if I can help you achieve beautiful, blissful sleep is to schedule a 60 minute ZOOM sleep strategy session. Go to this link and complete the contact me form and I will be in touch within 24 hours with directions on how to schedule your Sleep Strategy Session.
If you are still wondering if I can help, please know I do NOT advocate 'cry-it-out'. I am a Gentle Sleep Coach. If you want to learn about my guilt-free and gentle process, please go to these links.
The Blissful Baby Stairway to Sleep
Please join my Sleep is Bliss Tribe in Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn so we can stay connected and you can continue to get amazing resources on sleep and family wellness.
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Hi, my name is Francesca. I'm like totally I'm speaking low. Cause my baby's napping right now, but we contacted Joanna when She was about when our daughter was about a year And three months, she was never a great sleeper since the time she was born. And we always assume that at some point she was going to get it and she was going to sleep,
but he got to a point where just getting up at night, you know, she'd wake up a couple of times at night and especially me. I just felt really guilty. How can I not get my baby to sleep? I mean, it just seems so simple. You just tired and your sleep. So we were pretty desperate. We'd been putting it off my husband and I both believe that at some point she's going to get it.
And she didn't. So we found John on Google, we talked to her, she seemed really understanding as a parent. You you're always scared to feel judged I guess, but from the get-go she made us feel super comfortable on the greatest part is that she gave us a plan and she told us that it was normal and that it happened to a lot of people and just having a coach,
you know, cause we tried several things, but the issues that we didn't stick with them. So when you have a coach, you have somebody telling you it's okay, just keep going, keep going. Or you see little improvements day by day. And it's really encouraging. So what Jada did for us, honestly, it's the best money I think we've ever spent.
It just made us feel good as parents. Most importantly, our daughter's sleeping and you can tell when her demeanor or her development, she's just a way happier kid. She was always happy. But now she's just incredibly happy for me. Now I can have a routine because now I know when she's sleeping, you know, when she's not being, I know first,
first, now if I get my workout psycho nap, I can do some work. Same for my husband. So we have a better home structure. We're not just kind of playing it by ear and hope, hoping that the day will go, okay, we know he's going to go, okay. And interestingly enough, I have a home business. You don't realize how,
how non-functional you are, where you don't sleep. I never seen my baby started sleeping my business just skyrocketed because I can focus now. And again, I can dedicate time. So, you know, it's a short video. I can't even explain what it's done for our lives. I totally recommended don't wait there earlier. You do this the better you'll be.
Your baby will be better. Your family will be better and you can just focus on, on other stuff. It's just, you just take so much time to just be stressed out of all baby, not sleeping. John. I took I think two weeks and she was w we saw results already. She was sleeping through the night, I think after the first week.
And after the first couple of weeks, she was not being incredible. Like Gianna, just so thankful. You know, anybody that asks me, I'll totally recommend you. And you know, we have another baby. We're talking to you again. Thank you so much.
✔️Scheduling Fall Activities While Maintaining Restful Nights
This season brings with it the excitement of new beginnings—school, sports, and extracurriculars. Yet, amidst this bustling change, how do we safeguard the cornerstone of our children’s well-being: their sleep?
If you have a child aged 4-10 years old, this article is for you! This is your gentle nudge to take a deeper look at your family schedule before you start to “say yes” to all the interesting opportunities that are begging for your child’s participation.
Remember the saying…”When you say YES to something, you are also saying NO to something else.” Please don't let over-commitments destroy your sanity or a harmonious household.
The Importance of Protecting Sleep
Sleep isn’t merely a pause in our day; it’s the foundational pillar supporting our children’s health, growth, and learning. As we dive into fall activities, it’s crucial to remember that safeguarding our children’s sleep schedules is not just a priority, but a necessity.
The right amount of sleep boosts components for thriving in school and extracurriculars.
Immunity
enhances learning
supports emotional regulation
Choosing Activities Wisely
When the catalog of activities arrives, it’s tempting to fill every afternoon with sports, arts, and clubs. Yet, this is where we must pause and ponder: What impact will this have on my child’s sleep? Here are a few guidelines to help navigate these choices:
End Times Matter: Opt for activities that conclude by early evening, home by 6pm. This ensures there’s ample time for dinner, homework, and the all-important wind-down routine before bed.
Morning Commitments: Consider what time your child needs to wake up for school, the bus, or daycare. Work backwards to ensure they're getting the recommended amount of sleep (9 to 12 hours for 6 to 12-year-olds, according to the CDC).
Quality over Quantity: It’s not about how many activities your child is enrolled in, but the joy and growth they derive from them. Choose activities that align with their interests without compromising their sleep.
Integrating Activities into Your Fall Schedule
Let’s strategize on how to integrate activities without sacrificing sleep:
Prioritize and Plan: Sit down with your child to pick activities that truly interest them and align with the family schedule. This collaborative approach ensures commitment and minimizes stress for everyone.
Structured Routines: Even with activities, maintain a consistent bedtime routine. This predictability helps signal to your child’s body that it’s time to wind down.
Homework and Downtime: Ensure there’s a buffer for homework and relaxation. Rushing from dinner to bed can leave children feeling wound up, making it harder to fall asleep.
Weekend Recuperation: Utilize weekends for downtime. Avoid overscheduling so your family can enjoy spontaneous moments together.
Sleep as a Non-Negotiable
In our family, protecting sleep has always been a concern when determining activities. It’s a non-negotiable, akin to nutrition and safety. I always recommend no more than 2 extracurricular activities during the school year. If there was a sport or activity my daughter was VERY interested in joining, and it left us home after 7:00pm I made sure to limit that to once a week. I understand the value of sleep, but also keep in mind your family goals. I always reassessed what our schedule would look like each season because things change over time and it's important to keep that in mind when those sign-ups begin. I have found for myself and clients that kids who enjoy ample rest not only exhibit more happiness and emotional stability, but also tend to perform better academically and excel in their extracurricular activities, as a well-rested mind is primed for learning and engagement.
This perspective helps in making decisions that support your children’s overall development and well-being. As you plan your fall schedule, keep sleep in the forefront of your considerations.
Remember, the goal isn’t to fit as much as possible into each day, but to curate a schedule that nurtures your child’s growth, joy, and rest. By protecting sleep, we equip our children with the resilience to meet the challenges of their days with energy and enthusiasm. Here’s to a fall filled with learning, laughter, and plenty of blissful sleep.
If you find bedtimes are getting harder and longer or your child is calling for you in the middle of the night. It's important to take a close look at the reasons why your child is having sleep challenges. My free resource below has lots of good insight.
If your interested in hearing from a family with school age kid and how sleep coaching has transformed their life check this blog:
Navigating the Storm: Understanding Sleep Regressions
Today we're diving into a topic that can send even the most seasoned parents into a frenzy: sleep regressions. Ah, yes, those pesky periods when it feels like all the progress we've made in your little one's sleep habits suddenly vanishes into thin air. But fear not, dear parents, because I'm here to shed some light.
What are sleep regressions
why do sleep regressions happen
how to navigate through these periods of stormy nights & bad naps with patience and grace.
What is a Sleep Regression, Anyway?
First things first, let's talk about what exactly a sleep regression is. Simply put, it's a temporary period when your baby or toddler experiences disrupted sleep patterns, often leading to more frequent night waking, trouble falling asleep, or shorter naps. These regressions can feel like a step backward in your sleep journey, leaving you feeling frustrated and exhausted.
Why Do Sleep Regressions Happen?
Now, you might be wondering, "Why, oh why, is my little angel suddenly waking up every hour again?" Well, sleep regressions can be triggered by various factors, such as developmental milestones, growth spurts, teething, illness, or changes in routine. Essentially, as your child's brain and body go through new stages of growth and development, their sleep patterns might temporarily get a bit wonky.
I have created a free guide on sleep regressions. In this guide I cover:
Common Ages for Sleep Regressions
How long does a sleep regression last
When will a sleep regression happen?
Identifying a sleep regression
Causes of sleep regressions
Tips for managing a sleep regression
Sleep regression resources
Remember, You're Not Alone
If you find yourself in the midst of a sleep regression storm, know that you're not alone. These phases are a normal part of your child's development, and with patience, love, and a bit of caffeine, you will weather this storm.
And remember, if you ever need a guiding hand or a listening ear, Blissful Baby Sleep Coaching is here for you. Together, we'll navigate these choppy waters and emerge stronger, well-rested, and ready to embrace the joys of parenthood.
Here's to smoother nights ahead, filled with sweet dreams and peaceful slumber.
Are you struggling with your child’s sleep? Could you use some support?
The first step to see if I can help you achieve beautiful, blissful sleep is to schedule a 60 minute ZOOM sleep strategy session. Go to this link and complete the contact me form and I will be in touch within 24 hours with directions on how to schedule your Sleep Strategy Session.
If you are still wondering if I can help, please know I do NOT advocate 'cry-it-out'. I am a Gentle Sleep Coach. If you want to learn about my guilt-free and gentle process, please go to these links.
The Blissful Baby Stairway to Sleep
Please join my Sleep is Bliss Tribe in Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn so we can stay connected and you can continue to get amazing resources on sleep and family wellness.
Sleep is Bliss, Let's Get you more!
Blissful Baby Sleep Coaching: Featured on "Letting Go With Aloha"
I have some thrilling news to share with all of you! I recently had the incredible opportunity to be featured on the "Letting Go With Aloha," platforms hosted by the amazing Karen Gibson. It was such an honor to discuss one of the most challenging aspects of parenting: getting our kids to sleep.
You can watch the discussion here on Instagram and here on Facebook.
In our interview, Karen and I dive deep into the mysteries surrounding children's sleep. We explore why sleep can be such a perplexing and elusive part of parenting and how crucial it is to a child's learning and development.
Sleep Challenges: Do These Sound Familiar?
Does your child need a ton of parental support to go to sleep?
Is bedtime taking WAY too long and WAY too too many steps?
Does your child wake up in the middle of the night and need that same level of support?
Is your child waking up with the birds before 6am?
Is your child cranky all day long?
Is your child skipping or fighting naps?
One child not sleeping well affects the entire family system on the daily. The good news? All sleep challenges are solvable.
As a certified Gentle Sleep Coach, I've dedicated my career to helping families navigate these often turbulent waters. Sleep is not just about rest; it's the cornerstone of healthy development and emotional well-being for our little ones. During our chat, I shared insights into the science of sleep, common pitfalls parents face, and practical tips to create a peaceful bedtime routine.
Key Points from Our Discussion:
Understanding Sleep Challenges: We talked about what qualifies as a sleep challenge and how to identify them in your child.
Joanna’s Story: I shared why I do what I do and my journey into the world of sleep coaching.
Conquering Fear in Kids: We discussed how to handle those "ninjas" that appear in parents' beds at night.
Dealing with Parents' Fear of Failure: Overcoming the anxiety that comes with sleep training.
Defining Sleep Skills Using Sleep Science: How understanding sleep can simplify the "sleep puzzle" and solve sleep struggles.
Book Recommendations: Essential reads to help you tackle sleep challenges.
Discovering Root Causes: Identifying medical conditions and sleep disorders that might be inhibiting sleep.
Sleep Coaching Methodologies: Effective strategies to improve your child's sleep patterns.
Karen's platforms, "Letting Go With Aloha," are dedicated to supporting parents and caregivers, and I am so grateful to have been a part of it. Her compassionate approach aligns beautifully with the values of Blissful Baby Sleep Coaching, where we emphasize a child-led, compassionate approach rooted in sleep science, behavioral science, and attachment theory.
I encourage you all to watch the video and join the conversation. Whether you're a new parent struggling with sleepless nights or a seasoned caregiver looking for fresh insights, there's something in this discussion for everyone.
More About Karen Gibson
Karen Gibson is a mother of two adult daughters, a wife, educator, author, and parent-family coach. Her mission is to support moms and dads navigating the rollercoaster parenting journey, helping them create a nurturing environment while raising resilient, responsible, and respectful children. She is the author of "Mama's Gotta Let Go: How to Let Go Without Losing Your Sanity," "100 Parenting Tips Inspired by the Pandemic," and is one of thirty authors featured in "The Power to Rise Above." You can connect with her on Instagram and TikTok at @LettingGoWithAloha and listen to her podcast, "Karen KC Gibson’s Letting Go with Aloha," on Spotify. Karen's online course, "Breaking the Cycle of Anxious Parenting: Simple Strategies for Raising Teens," is available on her website: LettingGowithAloha.com.
Her Positive Intelligence Parenting Program helps parents silence their inner critic, unlocking their parenting superpowers to effectively nurture resilient, responsible, and resourceful children. Email her at Karen@LettingGowithAloha.com for more details.
Stay connected with Karen:
Thank you for your continued support, and let's help our children—and ourselves—achieve blissful, restorative sleep!
Let's Normalize Asking for Help
Today, I want to chat about something that's near and dear to my heart: asking for help. Yep, you heard me right! Let's make it the new normal.
You see, as parents, we often put tremendous pressure on ourselves to have all the answers, to be the superhero in our child's life 24/7. But let's take a step back and remember something crucial: it's okay not to know it all. It's okay to seek support when we need it most.
Here's the thing: if your little one is sick, where do you turn? You head straight to the doctor, right? It's a no-brainer. So why should it be any different when it comes to other challenges our children face, like sleep issues or feeding struggles?
Your role as a parent is not to do it all yourself. It's not about having a magical manual that gives you all the answers. No, your job is to get your child what they need, plain and simple. And sometimes, what they need is the expertise of someone who's been there, done that, and has the strategies to help.
So, let's ditch the shame and guilt that often comes with asking for help.
Seeking guidance from a sleep coach, lactation consultant, or child psychologist doesn't mean you're failing as a parent. It means you're doing everything in your power to support your child's well-being.
Think of it this way: finding an expert who can lend a hand is a powerful act of love. It's saying, "Hey, I care so much about you that I'm going to bring in someone who can help us navigate this challenge together."
And guess what? This doesn't take away from your abilities as a parent. Not one bit. In fact, it shows just how committed you are to being the best parent you can be.
As our children grow older, our role as their support system evolves too. Just think about when they're gearing up for college applications or preparing for that first big job interview. We don't expect them to go it alone, do we? No way! We rally behind them, seeking tutors for that tough calculus class, coaches for the soccer team, advisors for career guidance. It's all part of the journey of helping them become independent, resilient adults. So, just as we don't hesitate to enlist the help of experts for these pivotal moments, let's apply that same mindset to the earlier years. Seeking support isn't a sign of weakness; it's a reflection of our dedication to giving our children the best possible start in life.
So, let's break down those barriers to asking for help. Let's create a community where reaching out for support is not only accepted, but celebrated. Because, at the end of the day, we're all in this wild, beautiful journey of parenthood together.
Here's a list of options for support in the early years, ranging from sleep coaches to various therapists and support groups:
Sleep Coaches: Experts who can provide guidance and strategies for improving your child's sleep habits and routines.
Feeding Therapists: Professionals who specialize in addressing feeding difficulties, whether related to breastfeeding, bottle-feeding, or introducing solids or picky eating or issues with food textures..
Lactation Consultants: Certified professionals who provide expert guidance and support for breastfeeding mothers, helping with latch issues, milk supply concerns, and more.
Potty Training Coach: Specialists who can assist with the sometimes tricky process of toilet training, offering personalized strategies and tips.
Vision Therapy: For children experiencing vision-related challenges, vision therapists can provide exercises and interventions to improve visual skills.
Occupational Therapy: Professionals who help children develop the skills needed for daily activities, such as fine motor skills, sensory processing, and self-care routines.
Parent Support Groups: Communities of like-minded parents who come together to share experiences, advice, and emotional support.
Prenatal, Birth, and Postnatal Doula: Trained professionals who offer physical, emotional, and informational support to expectant mothers during pregnancy, childbirth, and the postpartum period.
Physical Therapy: Therapists who work with children to improve physical abilities, strength, coordination, and mobility.
Remember, each child is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. Don't hesitate to explore these options and find the right fit for your child's needs. Asking for help isn't a sign of weakness—it's a proactive step towards supporting your child's growth and well-being.
Here's to embracing the power of asking for help, to supporting one another, and, most importantly, to helping our little ones thrive.
So if you current is bedtime battles or many wake-ups at night than you might need some expert sleep support. Let’s start with some accurate and reliable information about the 5 things that kept your child awake last night.
Are you struggling with your child’s sleep? Could you use some support solving it?
The first step to see if I can help you achieve beautiful, blissful sleep is to schedule a 60 minute ZOOM sleep strategy session. Go to this link and complete the contact me form and I will be in touch within 24 hours with directions on how to schedule your Sleep Strategy Session.
If you are still wondering if I can help, please know I do NOT advocate 'cry-it-out'. I am a Gentle Sleep Coach. If you want to learn about my guilt-free and gentle process, please go to these links.
The Blissful Baby Stairway to Sleep
Please join my Sleep is Bliss Tribe in Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn so we can stay connected and you can continue to get amazing resources on sleep and family wellness.
Sleep is Bliss, Let's Get you more!
Meltdowns to Milestones: How Sleep Affects Your Child's Development
Today, let's delve into a topic that is close to my heart: the profound effects of sleep on our little ones' overall behavior and well-being. As a Pediatric Sleep Coach, I have had the privilege of guiding families towards restful nights and happier days. However, I have also witnessed firsthand the challenges that arise when a child doesn't get enough sleep.
Many parent’s who reach out because their child is not sleeping are also noting that their child is experiencing some of the following.
Bed wetting
Resistance to transitions
Slow Learning orLearning disabilities
Night terrors
Hyperactivity/ impulsiveness ( My baby is active and “spazzy”)
Anxiety
Behavior Issues
Clingy/separation anxiety
Irritable/Moody
Prone to illness
Not hitting developmental milestones
Can’t talk yet
Picky Eating & low appetite
Doesn’t nap well
Some of these issues could be caused by or magnified by insufficient sleep. Sleep plays a crucial role in a child's physical, emotional, and cognitive development. Adequate and restful sleep is essential for their overall well-being, behavior, learning abilities, and even their ability to regulate emotions and navigate daily challenges. While sleep doesn't solve all issues, it serves as a cornerstone for a child's health and development.
Can you see how your Child's Sleep is Impacting their Physical, Mental and Emotional Health?
Clingy/Separation Anxiety: When a child is overtired, they may become more clingy and fearful of separation from caregivers. This is often due to heightened emotions and a need for comfort and reassurance. Additionally, sleep disruptions can lead to feelings of insecurity, making it challenging for a child to feel safe when apart from loved ones.
Irritability/Moodiness: Perhaps one of the most common signs of inadequate sleep is irritability and moodiness. When a child is tired, they may become easily frustrated, have frequent meltdowns, and display unpredictable emotional reactions.
Prone to Illness: Sleep is vital for a healthy immune system. Children who do not get enough restful sleep may have weakened immune responses, making them more susceptible to illnesses such as colds, flu, and infections.
Not Hitting developmental Milestones: Adequate sleep is crucial for a child's growth and development, including reaching developmental milestones. When a child is sleep-deprived, their brain may not have enough restorative time to process and integrate new skills. This can result in delays in reaching milestones such as crawling, walking, talking, and other developmental achievements.
Delayed Speech Development (Can't Talk Yet): Sleep is essential for language development in young children. During sleep, the brain processes and consolidates new words and sounds. When a child is sleep-deprived, their ability to learn and retain language may be impaired, leading to delays in speech development.
Picky eating & low appetite : Sleep deprivation can affect appetite-regulating hormones, leading to changes in hunger cues. Some children may experience a decrease in appetite when they are tired, resulting in picky eating habits or reluctance to eat meals.
Bedwetting: Sleep plays a significant role in bladder control. Children who do not get enough restful sleep may have disruptions in their sleep cycles, including the deep sleep necessary to signal the brain to reduce urine production. This can lead to bedwetting, especially in children who are normally dry at night.
Resistance to Transitions: Children who do not get enough sleep may struggle with transitions, such as bedtime routines or changes in activities. This is because tiredness can make it difficult for them to shift focus or adapt to new situations.
Learning Disabilities: Chronic sleep deprivation can have a profound impact on cognitive function and learning. Children who do not get enough sleep may struggle with attention, memory, and problem-solving skills. This can result in difficulties in school, leading to challenges in academic performance and potential learning disabilities.
Night Terrors: Insufficient sleep can contribute to the occurrence of night terrors in children. Night terrors are intense episodes of fear and agitation that occur during deep sleep. When a child's sleep is disrupted or inadequate, they may be more prone to experiencing these frightening episodes.
Hyperactivity/Impulsiveness: Overtired children often display symptoms of hyperactivity and impulsiveness. This can be due to the body's attempt to combat fatigue by increasing adrenaline levels. The result is a child who seems constantly on the go, unable to settle down or focus on tasks. Sometimes parents feel they have an “active spazzy baby.”
Anxiety: Insufficient sleep can contribute to feelings of anxiety in children. When they are overtired, their bodies produce stress hormones, which can lead to increased feelings of worry and nervousness. Over time, chronic sleep deprivation can exacerbate anxiety symptoms, making it more challenging for children to cope with everyday stressors.
Behavior Issues: Lack of sleep directly affects a child's behavior. When they are tired, they may become irritable, moody, and have difficulty regulating their emotions. This can manifest as temper tantrums, outbursts, and general defiance. Additionally, tired children often struggle to concentrate and follow instructions, leading to behavioral challenges in school and at home.
Solving your child’s sleep struggles helps establish a baseline from which to assess other concerns, ensuring that exhaustion is not magnifying existing issues. As parents and caregivers, ensuring that our children get the recommended amount of quality sleep each night is one of the most important things we can do to support their growth and thriving. It sets the stage for their success, resilience, and happiness both now and in the future.
If you've noticed any of these signs in your child, know that you're not alone, and support is available. As always, I'm here to offer guidance and personalized strategies to help your little one drift off to dreamland and wake up refreshed, ready to conquer the day.
Here is a free guide that lists out the recommended sleep goals for all the different ages and stages of your child up to age 6.
Here's to peaceful nights and blissful days ahead!
The first step to see if I can help you achieve beautiful, blissful sleep is to schedule a 60 minute ZOOM sleep strategy session. Go to this link and complete the contact me form and I will be in touch within 24 hours with directions on how to schedule your Sleep Strategy Session.
If you are still wondering if I can help, please know I do NOT advocate 'cry-it-out'. I am a Gentle Sleep Coach. If you want to learn about my guilt-free and gentle process, please go to these links.
The Blissful Baby Stairway to Sleep
Please join my Sleep is Bliss Tribe in Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn so we can stay connected and you can continue to get amazing resources on sleep and family wellness.
Sleep is Bliss, Let's Get you more!
Help! Second child a bad sleeper - A True Story
This family's first child was a "dream sleeper."
Then came the 2nd baby.
This baby did not sleep.
These parents thought he would just "grow out of it".
Everyone was exhausted.
Work was impacted.
Parents were crabby.
Exhaustion and sleep deprivation were taking its toll on the whole family.
I see this situation so frequently. As parents, we embark on this new chapter with a blend of excitement and a touch of familiarity, having honed our skills from care-taking our first child.
Yet, what was once effortless with our first child can sometimes present unexpected challenges with the second (or 3rd or 4th child). The dynamics shift, and we learn that each child is wonderfully different. What worked like magic with one kiddo might not necessarily be the solution for the next.
My clients Meredith and Patrick were in this dilemma. Mom was "anti-cry-it-out" and so she just stayed in the struggle thinking cry-it-out was her only option. After an introduction from Grandpa, they finally reached out to Blissful Baby Sleep Coaching for support.
This family experienced a Total Family Sleep Transformation and felt supported during each phase of the process. They appreciated the science and reasoning behind the steps. Mom especially appreciated my child development knowledge and empathy for Mom's feelings. Now the family is well rested and meeting up with friends since the kids are sleeping!
-Meredith and Patrick W. Child was 13 months at time of guilt-free, gentle sleep coaching.
So please remember there is hope and help available. Every child can learn their sleep skills to become a fabulous sleeper. Here is a free guide to get you started on this process.
I do NOT advocate 'cry-it-out'. I am a Gentle Sleep Coach. If you want to learn about my guilt-free and gentle process, please go to these links.
The Blissful Baby Stairway to Sleep
Please join my Sleep is Bliss Tribe in Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn so we can stay connected and you can continue to get amazing resources on sleep and family wellness.
Sleep is Bliss, Let's Get you more!
5 Hidden health challenges that disrupt your child’s sleep: How a Sleep Coach Can Help
Behind the scenes of bedtime battles and midnight wake-ups, there might be underlying medical issues impacting your child's well-being. This is where a trained and certified baby and child sleep coach becomes a beacon of guidance, helping parents navigate the world of pediatric sleep disorders and their associated medical concerns.
The 5 Hidden Sleep Disruptors of Baby and Child Sleep
Beneath the surface of bedtime struggles and night terrors, child sleep disorders often have medical underpinnings. Here are some common issues a child sleep coach can help screen out and manage:
Low Ferritin Levels and Iron Deficiency: Chronic sleep deprivation can lead to disruptions in the body's ability to regulate essential nutrients like iron. Low ferritin levels, a sign of iron deficiency, have been linked to poor sleep quality in children. A sleep coach can work with parents to address sleep issues and collaborate with healthcare providers to monitor and manage nutritional concerns.
Sleep Apnea in Children: Although often associated with adults, sleep apnea can also affect children. This disorder, characterized by pauses in breathing during sleep, can lead to fragmented sleep, daytime sleepiness, and even behavioral issues. A child sleep coach can recognize the signs and recommend further evaluation by a pediatrician or sleep specialist.
Low Vitamin D- Vitamin D influences sleep quality and duration through receptors in the brain areas responsible for sleep regulation.This nutrient’s impact on sleep can indirectly affect children's cognitive development and overall growth due to the critical role sleep plays in these areas. Ensuring children receive sufficient sunlight exposure and maintain a diet rich in vitamin D, through fortified foods or supplements as recommended by healthcare providers, is crucial for their overall health and sleep quality.
Speech and Language Delays: Sleep disturbances, such as frequent night awakenings or poor sleep quality, can impact a child's ability to develop speech and language skills. By improving sleep habits and ensuring restorative rest, a sleep coach can support speech development milestones.
Motor Skill Development: Adequate sleep is crucial for a child's physical growth and motor skill development. Children who struggle with sleep might have delays in reaching milestones such as crawling, walking, and hand-eye coordination. A baby sleep coach can help create an environment conducive to optimal physical development through better sleep practices.
In the whirlwind of parenthood, the importance of finding the hidden blockers to quality sleep for children can sometimes be overlooked.
How a Child Sleep Coach Can Help
After 13 years of being a sleep coach, I frequently see this situation. There is a devoted parent who has read every book and scoured every online forum in search of the secret to getting her child to sleep through the night. Armed with an arsenal of techniques and methods, and they followed every expert tip to the letter. Yet, their little one continues to toss and turn, leaving both mother, child and family exhausted and bewildered. It usually isn't until the family reaches out to me, a trained Gentle Sleep Coach, for the insight and guidance, where the pieces of the puzzle finally fall into place. Together, we uncovered underlying medical challenges that were silently affecting this child's ability to rest soundly. This story is all too common and I wanted to share with everyone. When a child's sleep is disrupted, it can have far-reaching effects on their overall well-being and ability to thrive.
Spotting Sleep Disorders: Child sleep coaches are trained to recognize the signs of common sleep disorders in children, such as sleep apnea, insomnia, restless leg syndrome, low vitamin D and low ferritin (iron storage) and more. Through detailed assessments and discussions with parents, a tenured coach can identify potential issues that might be impacting your child's sleep.
Tailored Sleep Plans: Once a sleep disorder is identified, a child sleep coach crafts personalized sleep plans designed specifically for your little one. These plans often include age-appropriate routines, gentle sleep training methods, and strategies to improve sleep hygiene.
Monitoring Milestones: Child sleep coaches provide ongoing support and guidance as your child reaches important developmental milestones. They understand how sleep impacts speech development, motor skills, and cognitive abilities, and can adjust sleep plans accordingly.
A Child Sleep Coach Can Boost Your Baby and Child’s Sleep Quality
If you notice persistent sleep struggles, unusual patterns of snoring, or suspect your child is not getting the rest they need, consider reaching out to a child sleep coach for prosper evaluation and guidance. The journey to restful nights and happy, healthy days might be just a consultation away.
Partnering with a tenured trained and certified baby and child sleep coach is more than just finding solutions to bedtime battles and wake-ups; it's about fostering a nurturing environment where your child can thrive. With the compassionate support of a child sleep coach, you can create the bedtime routines and sleep habits that set your little one on the path to a bright and promising future.
The first step to see if I can help you achieve beautiful, blissful sleep is to schedule a 60 minute ZOOM sleep strategy session. Go to this link and complete the contact me form and I will be in touch within 24 hours with directions on how to schedule your Sleep Strategy Session.
If you are still wondering if I can help, please know I do NOT advocate 'cry-it-out'. I am a Gentle Sleep Coach. If you want to learn about my guilt-free and gentle process, please go to these links.
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Do you and your Partner Feel like Bedtime is a chaotic “Divide and Conquer” battle?
In this video I am doing "hot seat coaching" for Gina C. in a classic situation where bedtime is a battle and she and her partner have to "divide and conquer" especially now that they have a new baby at home!
Gina’s 3 year old boy transitioned to the big-boy bed and consequently, there has been sleep drama ever since. The situation is leaving both mom and dad utterly exhausted, especially since they also have a newborn!
Being held "for just a little bit"
Tantrums
Crying
Carrying back to bed after he falls asleep
Waking up to "potty"
Falling asleep in the recliner
New baby at home
Nap refusal
Transition to big boy bed
Self Doubt- Questioning parental skills
Gina is asking "Will this ever end?" I am here to bring insight and clarity to a path forward to help her son achieve beautiful, blissful sleep!
I am so happy that Gina reached out for help. If you are thinking these same thoughts, don't grin and bear it. Sleep is a learned skill and we can create the right environment for any child.
Are you struggling with your child's sleep? Are you interested in an alternative to cry it out methods?
The first step to see if I can help you achieve beautiful, blissful sleep is to schedule a 60 minute ZOOM sleep strategy session. Go to this link and complete the contact me form and I will be in touch within 24 hours with directions on how to schedule your Sleep Strategy Session.
If you are still wondering if I can help, please know I do NOT advocate 'cry-it-out'. I am a Gentle Sleep Coach. If you want to learn about my guilt-free and gentle process, please go to these links.
The Blissful Baby Stairway to Sleep
Please join my Sleep is Bliss Tribe in Facebook,Instagram andLinkedIn so we can stay connected and you can continue to get amazing resources on sleep and family wellness.Sleep is Bliss, Let's Get you more!
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Hello? Hello, this is Joanna with Blissful Baby Sleep Coaching, and I'm going live today to do some hot seat coaching. I love doing this you guys. So I am super excited to do the hot seat coaching today for Gina SI from Texas. And she has a three-year-old son who has recently moved to the big boy bed in may. And ever since the transition has taken place,
it's been really challenging and Gina also has a newborn. So what I'm going to do for this hot seat coaching is Gina has filled out the, get your life back and all starts with sleep hot seat coaching forms. So she's given me a lot of details that I want to share with you so that you guys kind of have the full picture of her situation.
And then what I'm going to kind of go back and do and give her some recommendations and suggestions. So Gina, if you are here, you know, feel free to post a comment. So I know you're here as I move through this, I might be asking for some validation from you, like is, you know, am I getting these facts right?
Or does this sound like what you think is happening? Because it's kind of nice to have the, the back and forth in these hot seat. Coachings. If you're not here, it's not a problem because this will remain on Facebook live and I'll also be sending it out on email so that you can go back and watch the video. And if any of you are here and this,
and you can relate to what's going on, then obviously definitely chime in on that. Okay. So I'm going to jump right in here and I'm going to give you guys the backstory so that you know, what is happening with Gina. Okay. So recall she is a three-year-old boy and she said, and who just moved to the big boy bed in may.
So it's only been a couple of months. She says the bedtime or takes the bedtime routine, takes one to two hours. Her son will request to use the potty two or more times. He requests a sip of water or milk and, or a pat on the back, or he wants to have quiet time while dad sits in the rocking chair. Oftentimes he'll request to be held in dad arms for just a little bit,
which she's put that in quotes, which I think is great. Cause right, these two year olds there's three year olds can be so cute with their requests. She says, okay, depending on the night, one or two things that occurs after that, either the child will tantrum and cry or dad will eventually tire and carrying him to recliner in the living room until they both fall asleep,
dad will then carry him back to the room and place him in his bed fully asleep. Okay. So this is what's happening at bedtime. Now I also asked her, well, what happens in the middle of the night? And she said, okay. And the middle of the night, our son will walk into our bedroom, wake up, dad asked to go potty and then wants to be held again.
So whatever notably happens, his dad and her son will fall asleep in the recliner, in the living room. And then the child will be carried back to his bed. So you guys remember that they also have a newborn in the house. So we've kind of got one of those, you know, classic situations where it's like divide and conquer. Right.
So probably mom is with the newborn and dad is like, okay, I'm in charge of the three-year-old. Okay. She's also having issues with naps. Okay. And he says, because he transitioned to a twin bed in may, he will either play or refuse to nap. So on top of all the other things happening at bedtime in the middle of night,
now she has a three-year-old that doesn't want to nap during the day. Which of course we can all have extreme empathy for Eugena because you're no one in your households getting a break. You've got a three-year-old boy awake all day and having broken sleep at night. I am so, so sorry. And I'm here to help you today. Okay. I asked her how,
how, how do you feel, how do you feel professionally, personally, emotionally and physically. And she said his regression and his sleep schedule has left us both mom and dad utterly exhausted, especially since we're tending to the newborn. We do not see any light at the end of the tunnel. Excuse me. We do not see any light at the end of the tunnel.
And it really truly has this question about parental skills. So, you know what I want to say this for any of you listening now or those listen later, one of the hardest things about being a parent is we're constantly confronted with our own self doubt and self doubt can just be dilapidating. It can just be really emotionally exhausting because you're always second guessing yourself.
You're always wondering if there's a better way. You're always feeling guilty about whether or not you're doing it good or bad. So I, I definitely understand this dilemma that you're, you're questioning your parenting skills and when issues start happening with sleep, it is very common because we're already a little bit emotional, fragile from our, you know, lack of sleep and broken sleep,
you know? Cause we all know we get a more emotionally fragile when we are low on sleep. Then of course it brings this parental self-doubt right to the forefront. And so I just want you to know that it's not, that you're not a good mom or that you're not, you know, doing the, making the right choices in your parenting or that you need to up your game with your parenting skills.
It's more like the situation where you guys are all sleep deprived and it's confusing and you've probably tried lots of things and they haven't worked has now led you to this kind of avalanche of self doubt. It's not that your parental skills are non-existent okay. So I just want to kind of offer you some perspective and some encouragement there. So you don't keep beating yourself up because that's not going to help us here.
We need to go into this with recognizing that sleep is a learned skill and that we can absolutely solve this and that you have the potential you and your husband to work as a team to get sleep back on track. All right. So I asked her, what are the, what are some of the other crazy things going on in your head when you're thinking about this situation?
And she said, will this ever end, like, are we ever going to solve this? And she's wondering, is this just a typical three-year-old thing and he'll outgrow it? Or, or, or is this like the new normal, very important questions to ask because we don't want this to be the new normal. And so that's why I'm so happy that Gina is reaching out for help now,
and that she's not letting this situation continue and go into a state of, well, I guess I have a bad sleeper or well, I'll deal with it later. He'll grow out of it. Please, please, please. Any of you out there that are thinking those same thoughts, stop right. Alert. If you're having those thoughts, like, oh,
maybe my kid's just a bad sleeper or he'll, you know what, I'll just deal with it. He'll grow out of it. Anyone having those thoughts please stop. That is not the truth. Okay. Like I said, a couple of minutes ago, sleep is a learned skill and we can create the right atmosphere and the right environment for any child,
no matter what age and stage they're at to learn the skills of sleep. So this is not something to grunt, you know, to just grin and bear it. This is not something to just give up and go. I, you know, whatever, I guess I'll just deal with it. No, we can absolutely move forward with a resolution and have everybody sleeping because we want that.
We want that for your child for healthy growth and development. And we want that for you from a parenting point of view so that you can be at your, at your very best while you're on this parenting journey. Okay. So, so her big question is, okay, how do we get this routine down to 30 minutes or less without a tantrum and with overall good participation with the three-year-old.
So we will discuss that. And then she said, okay, and if all this happened, if you were able to help me with this, how would life feel? And she said, life would be more enjoyable. And I, instead of us driving both bath time and bedtime, which of course you guys, there's nothing worse than dreading the bedtime routine because sometimes that dreads starts hitting you at like 11:00 AM.
It doesn't even hit you at five. It's like creeping up on you all day long. And I don't want you to drive bedtime. I want you to feel like you've got, you've got bedtime, like a beautiful routine that you can rely on and depend on. And the bedtime can be a time with, you know, that runs smooth and where your child feels emotionally connected and versa.
Okay. So that is the backstory going on with Gina. So now let's talk about what's going on here and then we'll talk about where to solve it. All right. So first of all, let me give you guys plenty of context. Three-year-olds big boy beds. You as a, probably heard me say this before, but the transition to the big boy bed or the big girl bed is a massive vulnerability for sleep progression.
And in fact, I have a sleep regression guide that I'm going to put in the chat right now so that you guys can download this. And in fact, Cina, hopefully you can go grab this guide and download it instant, download free. And it reviews all the massive sleep regression reasons and gives you some specific directions on how to unravel it. But the transition to the big boy bed and the big girl bed is a massive vulnerability for sleep progression.
And the reason why is that if you don't prepare in advance for the transition, lots of shenanigans show up. And if your child had not been a great sleeper before the transition or the sleep skills were a little shaky or there were no sleep skills. And what I mean by that is if prior to the transition to the big boy bed, if your child was still dependent on anything being done to,
or for them at the onset of sleep at bedtime in order to go to sleep, or if your child, when they were still in the crib needed assistance to go back to sleep in the middle of the night, then you are already set up right from the start to have a miserable transition to the big boy bed. Okay? So remember you guys asleep crutch,
there's nothing wrong with sleep crutches. You can have them for long periods of time, but asleep crutch really is where a child needs you to do something to inform them in order to go to sleep. If that child moves from the crib to the big boy bed and still has to have a menu of things that you have to do to, and for your child in order to go to sleep or to go back to sleep,
they will carry over those requirements into the big boy bed scenario. But the problem is is that in the big boy bed scenario, it accelerates because now they have freedom to get up and to move around. And we also, you know, with three-year-olds, it is they're notorious for bedtime, stalling and requesting. And so you add the freedom, the existing sleep crutches and the,
the normal behavior of stalling and requesting, and it ends up creating kind of, you know, essentially the firestorm, which is exactly what you're living. So let's, let's talk about the, the stalling and the requesting for a second. So children that are two, three, and up until about four years of age are notorious for pushing boundaries. And they do this through requesting,
installing. It usually starts around dinner time and you can see it accelerating as you move closer and closer to trying to actually turn off the lights. They come up initially with some pretty legitimate requests, such as I need to go potty. I need another hug. You know, I need some more water. And so you're thinking to yourself, okay, you know,
that that's easy for me to do. I want to make sure I'm being attentive to my child. So I'll take the potty one more time or I'll offer them some more water or some more, you know, a cheese stick because they say they're hungry, but you ha what you have to realize about these requests is that the request typically is not about the thing they're asking for.
It's actually about engagement. Their desire is to con is to begin to stall and delay the bedtime. And so they're going to think of every sneaky way in order to delay. And every single time they ask for something and we get into a dialogue with them and we all, and we, you know, accommodate the request. They're like expanding the amount of time it takes for you to kind of execute the bedtime routine.
So the, so as it relates to this mom, like your, the bedtime problems, aren't starting at the time that dad tries to put them in the bed with a tantrum, it's probably starting at least an hour before. So we need to kind of go back in time and say to ourselves, okay, what's really happening around dinner time. Because if,
if you have to really get into a very smooth routine, that is the same every single night, right? So that you can accommodate the requests before the request comes. And that you're moving in this very sequential way, that the chin, depending on the pattern. Now I know this is hard during summer, right? We have swim lessons. We have like barbecues,
things are happening. But when you were in the middle of a sleep dilemma, like this, Gina, you're going to have to kind of go into sleep coaching mode for probably a solid two weeks. And what I mean by that is you're going to have to be home for dinner, home for bath home, for bedtime. You're going to have to really go back to the basics and,
and, and ask yourself if you're meeting your child's appropriate sleep window, especially with the fact that he has now been refusing to nap. We've got a big problem here because he's probably already going into bedtime, utterly exhausted. And instead of him being tired and crashing out, which would be the easier thing for you and your husband, he's probably really wired and tired.
And so the potential for more stalling, more requesting and definitely more tantrums is right there. It's like a spotlight. Okay. And so typically at this age, from the time a child wakes up in the morning to the time they're ready for nap, number one is typically no longer than a five to six hour interval. And then from the time they wake up from their nap to the time they're asleep at bedtime,
not getting ready to go to sleep, but literally like already asleep is typically no more than four to five hours. So what the key thing is is that you're going to probably have to go back and do some investigative work by doing some sleep logging, to really start getting a understanding how you might be missing the sleep window, both at nap, time and bedtime,
which is why it's lowering the probability for those two things to occur, especially if he is skipping his nap. Like if you're having a hard time getting nap back on track, because bedtime is so crazy, then his bedtime is going to be really early. I mean, his bedtime might be like six or six 30. And so going back to like,
you're going to go and sleep training mode, you know, this means like you're also not traveling, right? You're not having guests. You're, you're just really dedicating yourself to identifying the naptime sleep windows and the bedtime sleep windows and making sure that you have a very, very smooth transition going into bedtime because you don't want to catch him over tired or else you're just gonna leave yourself vulnerable for all of these tantrums and more delays.
The other thing we have to do is we have to address the situation at the, at, at the scene of the crime, which is kind of like when dad does bedtime routine, when we aren't being consistent in how we attend to our child, we actually create them to tantrum more. So I know dad is trying to do the best he can because he's helping you with the newborn and he's got a broken sleep himself.
But the fact that sometimes dad holds them in his arms and sometimes doesn't, and sometimes it's, you know, the, the, this kind of inconsistency on how dad decides to handle the time is probably one of the reasons why you're seeing an increase in protest, tears, and tantrums. So you're going to have to go back to you and husband, sit down and kind of come up with a very specific way that you're going to handle it,
the bedtime routine. So this kind of goes back to my trusty book that I recommend all moms have on their bookshelf, which is good. Night's sleep tight by Kim west. What I love about this book is that you do not have to read the whole book, cause I know no mother has time, but what I want both of you guys to do husband and wife is to read understanding tears,
which is like literally a page and a half, but it's going to start giving you the mindset that you need to be taking. When you go into sleep training mode, you are the coach. You were there to help your child regulate and create the right environment and circumstances for learning. You are not there to sleep, crutch them. So getting into the right mindset is like one of the most important things you can do to support your child.
The second thing I want you guys to do is I want you to specifically read the section on three-year-olds and I want you to read the section on transitioning to a big boy bed, because in that it's going to lay out a specific day-by-day step-by-step plan. And it's going to be really important that both husband and wife read the chapters and that you guys come together kind of at the dining,
you know, dining room table and have like what I call a business meeting, which is like, okay, we've both read the chapters. This is what I think might work well for our child. Look at the family calendar and decide kind of what your night one is going to be. Okay. So when you start to sleep coaching, it's not something random.
It's not something like, I need to figure this out right now, and I'm going to start it tonight, or I'm going to start it tomorrow night. It's really not like that. You have to think of sleep. Coaching is like going on a diet, right? Like when you really are serious about a weight loss journey, you are being very mindful.
Like, okay, am I going to do keto? Or am I going to do whole 30? Or am I going to be, you know, go vegan. And then you're going to, you know, evaluate your pantry in your freezer. And you're going to get your meal plans together and you're going to batch cook and you're going to plan your meals.
And you're going to alert all your friends and family that you're doing this so that everyone will support you. And you're going to give yourself a long period of time to onboard yourself with getting used to your new diet profile and your new eating habits. And then you're going to allow time for the body to adjust to it. And then eventually you're going to start seeing some weight loss over the course of time.
That's the mindset you need to go into with sleep coaching. Like this is something that you go in with very mindfully. You, you, you, you, you absolutely need to do it with the support of your partner. So it is a joint decision by husband, you know, by the two partners you plan in advance, you decide on your methodology,
you decide on your plan. You decide who the sleep coach is going to be. My recommendation is, is that whoever the sleep coach is going to be in this particular situation needs to be the same person for both bedtime and middle of the night for seven days, straight at a minimum, then you can probably consider switching to the other caregiver, but in genus specific situation,
I think that consistency is going to be paramount because there's already been a tremendous amount of inconsistency, which has created the additional tantrums. And so we need to kind of calm that down. And by having the same caregiver, do the same routine and it, and respond to the child the same way at bedtime and in the middle of the night, it's going to help calm and give that balanced platform for learning that learning environment that I keep talking about.
And, and then once you guys have your plan, you know, you're going to look at the family calendar and decide when your night one is going to be. And because your child is three, it's going to be really important to loop him in, in this process and let him understand that, like, you know, we're going to make some changes because we want to have a really fun summer.
And, you know, everyone needs really good sleep. I need good sleep. You know, your daddy, the baby, everyone needs good sleep. And so we're going to work really hard on your sleep and you have the child participate with you. You'll probably see. And in the book, there's a recommendation for sleep manners book. I would absolutely do that in advance.
Again, this is one of those kind of pre-training things you would do. You would get a sleep manners book so that your child knew what the routine was, what the expectations were. You would role play around how the, how the child is going to expect you to respond that way you minimize the frustration and the tears and the tantrums, because everything is aligned between parents.
The child knows what's coming, you've role-played with them. And you've created the sleep manners book. So they know what their expectations are. Then you start your night one and you do your night one. And then the next morning you sit down as a family and discussed what went well and what didn't go well, and what we need to plan and change for night two.
And obviously with the three-year-old, what you can often do is role-playing with them. So if you had some, if they did some things really well in their, in their sleep routine, you want to praise, praise, praise them. Absolutely. And if there were some things where they were a little bit shaky, not a problem that's to be expected because they're learning a new skill,
then you would go and practice what was really hard for them, so that they could kind of do better during the daylight hours. So that when you go back into bedtime that night, there's a higher probability of them feeling comfortable and confident to do better because now they know what is being expected of them. And again, all parents are clear on what the plan is,
and you'll probably have to, like I said, stay focused on this for a solid two weeks. Now, if your child never learned sleep skills to begin with, and you're like, oh my gosh, like he was a mediocre or bad sleeper in the crib. And now I'm expecting him to be a perfect sleeper in a big boy bed. Then that's to me like regular,
like you need to like stop right now, call a trusted, certified, gentle sleep coach. And you'll probably need support on actually sleep training your child from top to bottom because they never learned the sleep skills. And if they don't have the sleep skills already embedded, when they were at crib sleeper, it is going to be much harder for them to learn those same skills under the new environment.
And in that situation, since you guys are already feeling really exhausted and depleted, you're probably going to need some expert support to walk you day by day, step by step and customize the process to meet you guys where you are and his learning profile with his age and stage. And also for you guys, because your parents have a newborn as well. But if he previously had good sleep skills,
then I think that, that you going back into this book and collaborating with your husband and collaborating with your child, it's really going to give you that foundational piece that I think you kind of jumped over. You kinda missed when making that transition in may and in terms of how do I get this routine down to 30 minutes? Okay. Typically a routine from the time you start bath to the time they're asleep is usually 30 to 45 minutes.
So what I just described in him going through this new learning process, you will get down to that. And like I said, in terms of what time will he go to bed? I mean, I, if he's literally refusing nap or growing out of his nap, you know, he might be as, as bad as early as 6, 6 30 every night,
and you'll have a quiet house. And this idea of, I want really good participation from my son. That's where that sleep enters book and the role-playing becomes really, really imperative. And again, this is something to, to, to prepare for and plan before you try to execute the, the actual sleep plan on the night when a coaching. And so,
you know, for those of you that are like, oh my gosh, this sounds like me. I can't believe it. I never sleep, train my baby in the crib. And now I'm trying to make this big transition to the big boy bed or the big girl bed. No wonder it's not working. Like, don't worry about it. Don't beat yourself up.
Remember, we're not going to go down that self-doubt road, just recognize that there's hope and help to be had. Like you can absolutely reach out to a trained and certified gentle sleep coach. You do not. This does not mean you have to cry it out. This, this is just a powerful learning opportunity for your child to learn lifelong independent sleep skills.
And, and as you guys know, obviously, cause you're here and listening, I'm a gentle sleep coach. So I do not believe in cried out. And the first step in working with me, where I can assess your situation is to do a Sleep strategy session, which is a 45 minute session on zoom with me, where I'm able to assess your situation and offer insight and perspective and talk about the different ways that you can this situation.
And I, those of you that are thinking, like, I just need to talk to somebody and ask my questions and hear my story. That would be the first step. I do want everyone to know I am going on family travel. We're staying, you know, local in California, but I'm definitely gonna try to do a digital detox. So I will not be on Facebook or doing any client consults or sleep strategy sessions starting.
Let's see, let me just get you guys the right timing, starting the 18th through about August 2nd. So you can absolutely email me. I might be a little bit slow to respond because I'm trying to stay as far away as possible from my phone and my computer. We'll see if I can do it. I, I, I love my job so much.
It's hard for me to stay away, but I'm going to try to do that because my family really wants me to, and I think I probably need a little bit of a mental mental break. So thank you so much for being here. Those of you that are listening to this later, always feel free to do hashtag you know, replay and I'll know to go back and answer your questions after you've watched the video and those of you that are watching this thinking,
oh my God, that sounds like my friend. Please share this video with them so that they can get insight and perspective too. All right. Take care. Bye.