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Good Cop/Bad Cop Myth: Why Taking the Lead Strengthens Your Bond With Your Child
The Good Cop/Bad Cop Myth: Why Taking the Lead Strengthens Your Bond With Your Child
Parents often fall into the belief that one of them has to be the “good cop” and the other the “bad cop.” One parent gives extra comfort while the other steps in to create structure. The fear is that the parent who sets limits around things like sleep will be seen as the “bad cop.”
But here’s the reality: when you gently guide your child through routines with warmth, consistency, and responsiveness, you’re not creating distance—you’re actually building trust and connection.
Sleep coaching is one of the best examples of how consistency and routines works to create MORE CONNECTION.
Why Parents Worry About Being the “Bad Cop”
I hear this often: “If I’m the one taking the lead in sleep coaching, will my child resent me? Will they only see me as the parent who doesn’t comfort them?”
This worry comes from love. But attachment science and behavioral research are clear: children form strong bonds with parents who guide them consistently and sensitively.
Your child doesn’t see you as the “bad cop.” They see you as the parent who helps them feel safe enough to learn something new.
The Science of Structure and Attachment
Children thrive when their environment is predictable. Sleep science shows that when routines are consistent, a child’s brain begins to anticipate what comes next. This predictability lowers stress, strengthens self-regulation, and promotes healthy development.
From an attachment perspective, guiding your child through new skills—like independent sleep—teaches them:
“I feel safe because I know what to expect.”
“I can trust my parent to meet my needs with patience and consistency."
This isn’t about being “strict.” It’s about providing a loving, reliable framework your child can depend on.
What Parents Discover Through Sleep Coaching
Parents who lead their child through the sleep learning process are often surprised by what happens. Instead of feeling like the “bad cop,” they end up feeling:
More connected to their child
More attuned to their child’s needs and cues
More confident in their role as a guide
One dad put it beautifully:
“I think we’ve gotten closer, for sure. I’m more in tune with his needs and his wants, and that’s for sure helped with our relationship.”
This is the unexpected gift of sleep coaching—it strengthens bonds instead of straining them.
The Unexpected Benefits
When parents embrace their role as loving leaders, the ripple effects extend far beyond sleep:
Deeper Parent-Child Connection: Children feel secure in their parents’ consistent presence.
Confidence for Parents: Moms and dads learn they can support their child through change.
Peaceful Routines: Bedtimes and naps become calm, predictable, and stress-free
Children Who Thrive: Kids develop confidence knowing their parent can lovingly guide them through challenges.
Leading With Love
The idea of “good cop/bad cop” doesn’t really apply when we parent from a place of science and attachment. Taking the lead in sleep coaching doesn’t make you the “bad cop.” It makes you the steady, trusted guide your child can count on.
By creating consistent, loving routines, you’re not only helping your child sleep—you’re strengthening your bond in powerful, lasting ways.
Ready to See These Benefits in Your Family?
Sleep coaching isn’t about control or discipline. It’s about creating the right environment and circumstance, using proven sleep science and attachment theory, and responding with sensitivity so your child can learn the essential skill of sleep. And in the process, your relationship grows stronger than ever.
Book your sleep strategy session and let’s determine the right next steps for your child and your family.
At Blissful Baby Sleep Coaching, I believe that sleep is a learned skill, and every child is capable of learning it—with the right guidance and support.
Whether you’re a working parent juggling deadlines or simply a family in need of rest, know this: there is always help and hope available.
If you’ve been hesitating, wondering if sleep coaching is right for you, let me reassure you: the hardest part is deciding to start. From there, with expert guidance and your dedication, the progress will come quickly. This is your chance to transform your life in a way few other things can.
Ready to take the leap? Let’s talk about how sleep coaching can create your family’s transformation. You deserve this. Your baby deserves this. And your future self will thank you.
Let’s start with an easy first step, schedule a Sleep Strategy Session so me, you and your partner can have an 1 hr long zoom session so I can properly assess the sleep situation and determine if you need one-on-one sleep coaching support.
Let’s get your baby sleeping—and get YOU your sanity back.
If you are still wondering if I can help, please know I do NOT advocate 'cry-it-out'. I am a Gentle Sleep Coach. If you want to learn about my guilt-free and gentle process, please go to these links.
The Blissful Baby Stairway to Sleep
Please join my Sleep is Bliss Tribe in Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn so we can stay connected and you can continue to get amazing resources on sleep and family wellness.
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How Reflux, Low Ferritin, and Expert Support Transformed Monica’s Toddler’s Nights
When “Just a Phase” Isn’t the Full Story
When Monica reached out to me, her daughter had never slept independently. Naps were a battle, and nighttime meant hour after hour of being held just to keep her asleep. Monica and her husband were surviving on shifts, barely functioning.
“We didn’t even know where to start. We were beyond exhausted—there was no bandwidth left to figure it out.”
They weren’t dealing with “just a bad sleeper.” Something more was going on and thanks to my experience working with complex sleep challenges, we were able to uncover what others had missed.
Experience Matters: Seeing What Others Might Overlook
At Blissful Baby Sleep Coaching, I take a holistic, medically-informed approach to sleep. During Monica’s intake, I recognized signs that pointed to more than sleep habits. I encouraged her to explore possible underlying issues with her pediatrician like reflux, tongue tie, and later, low ferritin, a key iron storage marker.
“Our pediatrician told us, ‘some babies just cry.’ But Joanna noticed patterns no one else had. She helped us ask the right questions and get referrals to the right professionals. Joanna helped us uncover what was really going on. We wouldn’t be here without her”
Sleep issues aren’t always about habits.
With over a decade of experience, I’ve supported families through challenges like reflux, feeding concerns, oral ties, and low ferritin levels. While I don’t diagnose, I know what to look for—and when to suggest a family talk with their providers.
If you’re doing everything “right” and still not seeing progress, you may not need to try harder you may just need the right kind of help.
From Medical Clarity to Gentle Coaching
Once her daughter’s reflux and tongue tie were addressed, we discovered her ferritin level was just 25, well below the 50+ threshold required for stable sleep cycles. Monica began iron supplementation (under the supervision of her pediatrician), and with patience her ferritin levels began to raise and so then we could actually start sleep training.
“Joanna even helped us find the only iron supplement she would actually take.”
With medical needs managed, we moved forward with a gentle, six-week sleep coaching plan. I guided Monica through daily check-ins, real-time adjustments, and options tailored to her child’s progress and the family’s emotional readiness.
“Nothing was cookie-cutter. It was built around how she was doing and how we were doing.”
Life After Sleep Coaching: Freedom, Rest, and Joy
Today, Monica’s daughter sleeps 10.5 to 11 hours a night and naps independently during the day. Monica can move freely around her home. She and her husband are reconnecting. They’re going to brunch, visiting parks, enjoying their community and their child.
“We’re not just getting sleep. We’re getting ourselves back.”
For Families Who Feel Hopeless: You Can Get Help
If you’re deep in sleep deprivation and something just doesn’t feel right—trust that instinct. You deserve support from someone who can help you look deeper.
“We thought this was just part of parenthood. But we were wrong. There was more going on and Joanna helped us figure it out, one step at a time.”
Feeling stuck?
If you’ve been hesitating, wondering if sleep coaching is right for you, let me reassure you: the hardest part is deciding to start. From there, with expert guidance and your dedication, the progress will come quickly. This is your chance to transform your life in a way few other things can.
Ready to take the leap? Let’s talk about how sleep coaching can create your family’s transformation. You deserve this. Your baby deserves this. And your future self will thank you.
Let’s start with an easy first step, schedule a Sleep Strategy Session so me, you and your partner can have an 1 hr long zoom session so I can properly assess the sleep situation and determine if you need one-on-one sleep coaching support.
Let’s get your baby sleeping—and get YOU your sanity back.
If you are still wondering if I can help, please know I do NOT advocate 'cry-it-out'. I am a Gentle Sleep Coach. If you want to learn about my guilt-free and gentle process, please go to these links.
The Blissful Baby Stairway to Sleep
Please join my Sleep is Bliss Tribe in Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn so we can stay connected and you can continue to get amazing resources on sleep and family wellness.
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At What Age Should I Start Sleep Coaching?
If you're a parent wondering when is the best time to start sleep coaching, you’re not alone. Parents often ask, “At what age should I start sleep coaching my baby?”
There is an ideal time to formally start sleep coaching to ensure the process is most effective for your child’s developmental stage (and it is never “too late” to help your child learn sleep skills)
The Ideal Age for Sleep Coaching
Research and experience suggest that the optimal time to begin sleep coaching is when your baby is around 6 months old or when they are able to roll in both directions and they have passed their 4-5 month sleep regression.
Here’s why this stage is so important:
Developmental Readiness
Around the 6-month mark, babies gain more mobility, such as rolling over, and begin to demonstrate clearer sleep cues. At this age, they are also better equipped to learn how to self-soothe and manage longer sleep cycles. Their bodies are more capable of producing the necessary hormones for longer stretches of sleep, making this the perfect window to teach healthy sleep skills.Better Sleep Hormone Regulation
By 6 months, babies have better hormone regulation, particularly with melatonin and cortisol, which are key in developing circadian rhythms and longer sleep cycles. This makes it a more favorable time for introducing formal sleep coaching without disrupting their natural sleep-wake patterns.More Established Feeding Patterns
By this stage, many babies are beginning to settle into more predictable feeding routines, making it easier to establish a balanced day and night sleep schedule. Sleep and feeding often go hand-in-hand, and having more predictable patterns can make sleep coaching more successful.
What About Newborns?
For babies under 6 months of age (0-5 months), the focus is less on formal sleep coaching and more on Newborn Education and gentle sleep shaping. During the newborn phase, it’s important to create a strong foundation for sleep without overwhelming your baby—or yourself—with strict sleep training.
Gentle sleep shaping involves creating an environment that supports better sleep, such as establishing a bedtime routine, recognizing early sleep cues. This phase is all about helping your baby develop positive associations with sleep, but without the pressure of structured sleep training. I work with many families in this phase to set the stage for smoother sleep transitions once their baby is ready for formal coaching.
Can Older Children Benefit from Sleep Coaching?
Absolutely! While the 6-month mark is an ideal starting point, sleep coaching can be highly effective for children up to 6 years old. In fact, some children may experience sleep challenges that persist into toddlerhood or preschool, and it’s never too late to help them develop healthy sleep habits.
Why Age Matters for Sleep Coaching
It’s important to note that each age brings its own set of developmental milestones, which is why my approach to Gentle Sleep Coaching® is highly personalized. Here’s how age influences the sleep coaching process:
0-5 Months (Newborn Phase): Focus on gentle sleep shaping and creating healthy sleep habits (Newborn Education)
6-12 Months: Babies at this age are developmentally ready to learn sleep skills through more structured sleep coaching.
1-3 Years (Toddler Phase): Toddlers may require extra guidance around bedtime resistance or separation anxiety. We introduce techniques that respect their growing independence while still providing boundaries.
3-6 Years (Preschool Phase): For older children, sleep challenges might involve transitioning to a big-kid bed or managing fears at night. Gentle Sleep Coaching® can help them feel secure while teaching them to fall asleep independently.
It’s Never Too Late to Start
No matter when you start, sleep is a learned skill, and it’s never too late to teach your child healthy habits. Every child deserves the gift of good sleep, and so do you! Whether your child is a newborn, a toddler, or even school-aged, I’m here to guide you through the process with a personalized, gentle approach that supports both you and your child.
If you’re ready to help your child sleep better, I encourage you to schedule a Sleep Strategy Session to discuss your child’s unique sleep needs and determine the best path forward.
Restful nights and peaceful days are just around the corner—let’s get started!
Take the First Step
If you’ve been hesitating, wondering if sleep coaching is right for you, let me reassure you: the hardest part is deciding to start. From there, with expert guidance and your dedication, the progress will come quickly. This is your chance to transform your life in a way few other things can.
Ready to take the leap? Let’s talk about how sleep coaching can create your family’s transformation. You deserve this. Your baby deserves this. And your future self will thank you.
Let’s start with an easy first step, schedule a Sleep Strategy Session so me, you and your partner can have an 1 hr long zoom session so I can properly assess the sleep situation and determine if you need one-on-one sleep coaching support.
Let’s get your baby sleeping—and get YOU your sanity back.
If you are still wondering if I can help, please know I do NOT advocate 'cry-it-out'. I am a Gentle Sleep Coach. If you want to learn about my guilt-free and gentle process, please go to these links.
The Blissful Baby Stairway to Sleep
Please join my Sleep is Bliss Tribe in Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn so we can stay connected and you can continue to get amazing resources on sleep and family wellness.
Sleep is Bliss, Let's Get you more!
From Exhausted to Empowered: How Sleep Coaching Transformed This Working Family’s Life
If you're a working parent running on fumes, you're not alone. Jake and Olivia, like so many families, were caught in the exhausting cycle of sleepless nights with their 17-month-old son.
With only four broken hours of rest each night, both parents were overwhelmed, sleep-deprived, and desperate for change.
That’s when they found me and everything started to shift.
The Breaking Point: Sleep Deprivation and Burnout
Before reaching out for support, Jake and Olivia were tag-teaming throughout the night, trying everything they could to soothe their son. Nothing worked. The toll it took on their relationship, their health, and their ability to function at work was becoming unbearable.
“We were getting maybe four hours of broken sleep a night. It was just causing chaos in our lives and something had to change”.
As a dual-income family with a full schedule and high demands, they needed more than a quick fix. They needed a personalized, sustainable sleep solution and that’s exactly what we created together.
A Personalized Sleep Coaching Journey
Every child is unique, and their son was no exception. Sensitive and particular, he needed a specific set of conditions to learn the skill of independent sleep. One-size-fits-all approaches weren’t going to cut it.
Through gentle, responsive, and hands-on coaching, we developed a plan tailored specifically to his temperament and the family's lifestyle. Jake courageously led the process at home, and his commitment made all the difference.
“Getting the one-on-one help was a really important part in our case for sure… and just being able to adapt to his changing needs every day, that was the key.”
Sleep Success: A Hands-Free Bedtime Routine
Today, bedtime in their home looks radically different. At 7:30 PM, they read a book, put their son in his crib, and walk away. No rocking, no bouncing, no middle-of-the-night wakeups. He sleeps through the night—9 to 10 hours straight.
“We literally put him into bed at around 7:30 and he just falls asleep on its own and it’s hands free and it’s so easy.,”
Weekends are now beautifully structured, with reliable naps from 12–2 PM giving Jake and Olivia precious time to relax, run errands, or simply enjoy quiet moments.
A Stronger Father-Son Bond
One of the most beautiful, unexpected results of the sleep coaching journey was the deepened bond between Jake and his son. Rather than being the “tough parent” or disciplinarian, Jake found himself more connected and attuned to his little one’s needs than ever before.
“I feel closer to him now. I’m more in tune with his needs and his wants. That’s definitely been a huge plus,” Jake reflected.
And for Olivia? She gets a break and a partner who’s confident and capable at bedtime.
The Ripple Effect of Rested Parents
When babies sleep, families thrive. With their evenings restored, Jake and Olivia can now:
Reconnect as a couple
Catch up on chores, calls, and errands
Plan date nights and confidently leave their son with family
Show up as present, patient parents—even on Mondays
For Working Parents Wondering If Sleep Coaching Is Worth It...
Let Jake’s words be your encouragement:
“Don’t be afraid of it. And don’t assume that you can’t be helped. We were there too and now everything is different.”
Ready to Transform Your Family’s Sleep?
At Blissful Baby Sleep Coaching, I believe that sleep is a learned skill, and every child is capable of learning it—with the right guidance and support.
Whether you’re a working parent juggling deadlines or simply a family in need of rest, know this: there is always help and hope available.
If you’ve been hesitating, wondering if sleep coaching is right for you, let me reassure you: the hardest part is deciding to start. From there, with expert guidance and your dedication, the progress will come quickly. This is your chance to transform your life in a way few other things can.
Ready to take the leap? Let’s talk about how sleep coaching can create your family’s transformation. You deserve this. Your baby deserves this. And your future self will thank you.
Let’s start with an easy first step, schedule a Sleep Strategy Session so me, you and your partner can have an 1 hr long zoom session so I can properly assess the sleep situation and determine if you need one-on-one sleep coaching support.
Let’s get your baby sleeping—and get YOU your sanity back.
If you are still wondering if I can help, please know I do NOT advocate 'cry-it-out'. I am a Gentle Sleep Coach. If you want to learn about my guilt-free and gentle process, please go to these links.
The Blissful Baby Stairway to Sleep
Please join my Sleep is Bliss Tribe in Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn so we can stay connected and you can continue to get amazing resources on sleep and family wellness.
Sleep is Bliss, Let's Get you more!
Will YOUR Sleep Training Method Work for me and my Baby?
As a parent, you’ve likely tried everything under the sun to help your child sleep better—books, advice from family and friends, even other sleep coaches—but nothing seems to stick.
I understand how frustrating and draining that can be. Many families come to me feeling exactly the same way: exhausted, overwhelmed, and unsure if sleep coaching will ever work for them.
So, if you’re wondering, “What if sleep coaching doesn’t work for us? How is your process any different?”
Let me reassure you that my approach is not just another sleep training technique. It’s a highly personalized, science-backed method that I’ve used successfully with over 1,000 families. As one of the top 200 Sleep Consultants in the USA and the #1 international bestselling author of three books on sleep, I’m confident in my ability to help families like yours.
Why My Sleep Coaching Process Works
What makes my approach different from other sleep coaches is the Gentle Sleep Coaching® method I use. It’s rooted in behavioral science, sleep science, and attachment theory. It’s not about quick fixes or one-size-fits-all solutions; it’s about understanding your child’s unique temperament, your family’s needs, and creating a customized plan that works for everyone involved. Here’s what makes it stand out:
Guilt-Free and Compassionate
You’ll never have to feel guilty or like you’re doing something wrong. Gentle Sleep Coaching® respects your parenting style and ensures your child’s emotional well-being. We’ll work together to make sure your child feels secure, and that you feel confident in the steps you’re taking.Child-Led and Age-Appropriate
I believe in meeting your child where they are developmentally. I don’t rush or push children into sleep independence before they are ready. Instead, I guide them gently, helping them build self-regulation skills that will serve them for life.100% Sleep Success Guarantee
I’m so confident in the effectiveness of my process that I offer a Sleep Success Guarantee to families who participate in my Sleep Coaching Packages. If, after five days of actively following the sleep plan, you feel that it’s not working for you, I will reimburse you for the remaining support time in your package. Most families see improvement within the first five days!Daily Live Coaching Calls and Real-Time Support
You won’t be left alone to figure things out. My process includes daily live coaching calls, where we review your child’s progress, address any challenges, and make adjustments to the plan if necessary. I’m with you every step of the way to ensure you feel supported and confident.
Why Other Methods Might Have Failed
Families often come to me after trying other methods that didn’t work because those approaches might have missed critical factors. Some common reasons sleep coaching doesn’t work include:
Inconsistent Follow-Through: If you’re trying a new strategy but don’t stick to it consistently, it’s tough to see results.
Lack of Customization: What worked for your friend’s baby might not work for yours. Every child is different, and sleep solutions need to be tailored to your child’s specific needs.
Overwhelming Sleep Programs: Many programs are rigid or too complex to follow. This can make it hard to stick to, especially when you’re sleep-deprived.
That’s where my science-based and customized approach comes in. I don’t rely on a cookie-cutter formula. Instead, I craft a plan specifically for your family, taking into account everything from your child’s age to your family’s routine.
Will Sleep Coaching Work for You?
The short answer is: yes, it can! My process has worked for families just like yours who felt they had tried everything. The Gentle Sleep Coaching® method is designed to be flexible, supportive, and effective, no matter what sleep challenges you’ve been facing.
With my Sleep Success Guarantee, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain: more restful nights, a happier child, and a more peaceful household.
Are you ready to finally get the sleep you deserve? Let’s get started, and I’ll help guide you every step of the way
Hope and Help are Here
If you’ve been hesitating, wondering if sleep coaching is right for you, let me reassure you: the hardest part is deciding to start. From there, with expert guidance and your dedication, the progress will come quickly. This is your chance to transform your life in a way few other things can.
Ready to take the leap? Let’s talk about how sleep coaching can create your family’s transformation. You deserve this. Your baby deserves this. And your future self will thank you.
Let’s start with an easy first step, schedule a Sleep Strategy Session so me, you and your partner can have an 1 hr long zoom session so I can properly assess the sleep situation and determine if you need one-on-one sleep coaching support.
Let’s get your baby sleeping—and get YOU your sanity back.
If you are still wondering if I can help, please know I do NOT advocate 'cry-it-out'. I am a Gentle Sleep Coach. If you want to learn about my guilt-free and gentle process, please go to these links.
The Blissful Baby Stairway to Sleep
Please join my Sleep is Bliss Tribe in Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn so we can stay connected and you can continue to get amazing resources on sleep and family wellness.
Sleep is Bliss, Let's Get you more!
Grandparents involvement in grandchildren's lives
In our fast-paced, modern world, the value of family connections can sometimes be overshadowed by the demands of daily life. Yet, the proximity of grandparents can offer profound benefits to both the younger and older generations.
The most recent data shows that almost 1 out of 4 preschool children in the US are cared for by a grandparent (that's 4.8 million kids!).
Benefits for Grandparents to be in close proximity to their grandchildren
Living close to their grandchildren can have significant benefits for grandparents as well. Active involvement in their grandchildren's lives can promote physical activity, mental stimulation, and a sense of purpose. Studies have shown that grandparents who have close relationships with their grandchildren experience lower levels of depression and greater overall life satisfaction.
One study showed that adults aged over 60 years who spent on average 12 hours each week looking after grandchildren were 60% less likely to feel lonely than non-caregivers, and other research revealed similar trends.
Grandparents considering moving closer to family?
For grandparents considering a move to be closer to their adult children and grandchildren, the benefits are substantial and multifaceted. Such a move facilitates frequent, meaningful interactions that strengthen family bonds, provide emotional support, and promote healthy aging for grandparents. If your family is considering a move like this, the article below is a must read to address questions such as:
Do my/our adult children want us nearby? If so, how near might be too near?
Do they live some place that I/we would want to be?
What would I/we be leaving behind?
https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/grandparenting-ready-to-move-for-family-202109072583
Grandparents caring for your children
The organization “Zero to Three” has an incredible Grandparent Guide designed to help grandparents learn more about critical research findings in the areas of discipline, nutrition, sleep, and play.
Boundaries with Grandparents
In this Birth Education Center Podcast episode, Care Messer and Kimberly Beppler, Postpartum Doula & Lactation Consultant and the owner of her own doula agency delve into the often-overlooked struggles new parents face, especially in an era where communal support has diminished. They highlight the balance between welcoming invaluable grandparent support and maintaining new family autonomy.
Grandparents and SLEEP!
I understand that successful sleep coaching often involves the entire family, including other caregivers such as grandparents. Recognizing the crucial role they play in the daily life of the family, I make it a point to involve grandparents in the sleep coaching process. Their support and consistency are vital in reinforcing the sleep strategies and routines we establish.
We make sure that Parents, caregivers and child are a TEAM through the entire process. By educating and empowering grandparents with the same knowledge and techniques I share with parents, we create a unified approach that ensures everyone is on the same page. This collaborative effort not only helps the child adapt more smoothly to new sleep patterns but also strengthens the overall family dynamic, fostering a cohesive and supportive environment for the child's growth and development.
Take the First Step
If you’ve been hesitating, wondering if sleep coaching is right for you, let me reassure you: the hardest part is deciding to start. From there, with expert guidance and your dedication, the progress will come quickly. This is your chance to transform your life in a way few other things can.
Ready to take the leap? Let’s talk about how sleep coaching can create your family’s transformation. You deserve this. Your baby deserves this. And your future self will thank you.
Let’s start with an easy first step, schedule a Sleep Strategy Session so me, you and your partner can have an 1 hr long zoom session so I can properly assess the sleep situation and determine if you need one-on-one sleep coaching support.
Let’s get your baby sleeping—and get YOU your sanity back.
If you are still wondering if I can help, please know I do NOT advocate 'cry-it-out'. I am a Gentle Sleep Coach. If you want to learn about my guilt-free and gentle process, please go to these links.
The Blissful Baby Stairway to Sleep
Please join my Sleep is Bliss Tribe in Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn so we can stay connected and you can continue to get amazing resources on sleep and family wellness.
Sleep is Bliss, Let's Get you more!
How One IVF Mama Let Go of the Guilt, Got Her Baby Sleeping, and Reclaimed Her Health and Future
"We Got Our Life Back And the Hope of Growing Our Family Again"
There’s a special kind of exhaustion that only a parent knows—and an even deeper one if you’ve walked the road of IVF to finally hold your baby in your arms.
You’re overjoyed.
Grateful beyond words.
But also? Bone tired.
Emotionally drained & confused about what to do next.
If you’re here, maybe this sounds familiar.
You’ve fought hard to become a parent—possibly through multiple IVF rounds—and now that your miracle baby is here, you feel this constant pressure to "enjoy every second."
But what happens when you're barely surviving the nights?
That’s exactly where my client “AH” found herself.
The IVF Joy... and the Overwhelm That Followed
My client and her husband welcomed their baby boy after several rounds of IVF. It was, as she says, “a dream come true.” She was all in—doing everything possible to make sure he was healthy and happy. Rocking, feeding to sleep, bouncing for over an hour just to get a short nap. Every moment felt worth it... until the exhaustion started stealing her health, her joy, and her ability to show up as the mom she wanted to be.
Around five months in, everything came to a head.
“We were not able to get him to sleep any other way,” she shared. “Sleep deprivation started to affect my health and my ability to be the best mother I could be.”
When Guilt Meets Burnout
Here’s the tricky thing for so many IVF parents: there’s guilt. Guilt for being tired. Guilt for wanting a break. Guilt for not enjoying every moment when you fought so hard to have this child.
My client felt this exact dilemma.
“I really struggled... because I felt like I was failing since we couldn’t get him to sleep,” she says. “I knew we needed help. I wanted to be present and enjoy our son. But I just couldn’t keep doing it like this.”
And beneath all that exhaustion was another quiet heartbreak: my client wanted another baby—but couldn't even consider going through IVF again with the way things were. Her body was worn down, her energy was depleted, and emotionally, it all felt impossible.
And for anyone who's walked the IVF path, you know—your body has to be in a good place for it to even work. It’s demanding, it's expensive, and it's not something you can enter into half-running on fumes. Sleep wasn’t just a “nice to have.” It was the barrier between AH and the hope of expanding her family.
The Turning Point: Gentle Guidance and a Root-Cause Revelation
After talking to her pediatrician and doing her research, my client found me—and our first consultation shifted everything.
“I immediately felt supported,” she recalls. “Joanna provided such a safe space to talk through everything.”
We were able to begin gentle sleep training with a plan tailored exactly to his needs and temperament.
“Joanna was with us every step of the way and now, he sleeps 12 hours at night and takes happy, restful naps during the day.”
A New Season: Rest, Reconnection, and Room for More
But this isn’t just a sleep story—it’s a life story.
With her son finally sleeping, my client experienced something she hadn’t felt in a long time: relief. And more than that, hope.
She and her husband began reconnecting as partners.
They started feeling like themselves again. And for the first time in months, my client could imagine trying for another baby—and this time, knowing she had the tools and support to create healthy rhythms from the start.
“We finally have more quality time together as a family, as a couple, and as individuals,” she said. “It’s opened our future again. Sleep is no longer a roadblock to growing our family.”
You're Not Alone
If you’ve been through IVF—or just had a tough road to get here—you know how precious each moment is. But you also deserve rest. You deserve a second child when you're ready, not when your exhaustion lets up. And that might start with a good night’s sleep.
If you're like this mom—grateful for the baby in your arms, but unsure how to keep going—know this: it’s okay to want more.
It’s okay to need help.
It’s okay to prioritize your health and your future.
Let’s get your life back, too. I am here to help YOU and your child to become a well-rested family.
Take the First Step
If you’ve been hesitating, wondering if sleep coaching is right for you, let me reassure you: the hardest part is deciding to start. From there, with expert guidance and your dedication, the progress will come quickly. This is your chance to transform your life in a way few other things can.
Ready to take the leap? Let’s talk about how sleep coaching can create your family’s transformation. You deserve this. Your baby deserves this. And your future self will thank you.
Let’s start with an easy first step, schedule a Sleep Strategy Session so me, you and your partner can have an 1 hr long zoom session so I can properly assess the sleep situation and determine if you need one-on-one sleep coaching support.
Let’s get your baby sleeping—and get YOU your sanity back.
If you are still wondering if I can help, please know I do NOT advocate 'cry-it-out'. I am a Gentle Sleep Coach. If you want to learn about my guilt-free and gentle process, please go to these links.
The Blissful Baby Stairway to Sleep
Please join my Sleep is Bliss Tribe in Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn so we can stay connected and you can continue to get amazing resources on sleep and family wellness.
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Neurodiversity: A Must-Listen Podcast for Parents
It’s time to shine a light on the diverse ways children experience and interact with the world around them. As we recognized both ADHD Awareness Month and Sensory Processing Awareness Month back in October, it's a perfect opportunity to explore resources that support neurodivergent children and their families.
As a gentle sleep coach and advocate for children's well-being, I'm always on the lookout for valuable resources that can support families on their unique journeys. Recently, I stumbled upon a fantastic podcast that I believe will resonate with many of you, especially those navigating the world of learning disabilities and neurodiversity. It's called the Tilt Parenting Podcast, and it's an absolute gem!
Hosted by Debbie Reber, a parent, author, and advocate, the Tilt Parenting Podcast dives deep into the challenges and triumphs of raising differently wired children.
The podcast offers insightful conversations with experts, parents, and kids themselves, covering a wide range of topics from ADHD and autism to twice-exceptional (2e) learners and beyond.
What I love most about this podcast is its empowering message that celebrates differences and provides practical advice for nurturing our children's unique strengths.
In the episode”Angela Pruess on Helping Our Children Become Better at Self-Regulation dives deep into what it is, why it’s an important skill for our kids to develop, the different ways we as parents and caregivers and teachers can support our kids in nurturing these skills.
This resonates deeply with my approach to gentle sleep coaching, where I also emphasize the importance of self-regulation. I work with families to develop sleep routines that empower children to self-regulate, self-settle and self-soothe and using these skills to establish healthy sleep habits.
These skills are not only crucial for good sleep but are also lifelong tools that help children navigate challenges and maintain emotional balance. This episode beautifully highlights the interconnectedness of self-regulation across different areas of a child's life, reinforcing the value of nurturing these skills from an early age.
For those of you who are parents of neurodivergent children or simply curious about learning more, I highly recommend checking out ALL THE RESOURCES, MINI-COURSES AND KNOWLEDGE ON THE WEBSITE TILT PARENTING
It's a wonderful resource that offers a blend of expert guidance and real-life stories, all aimed at helping families thrive. Listening to this podcast is like having a supportive friend who gets it, and it’s filled with practical tips that you can apply right away.
So, grab a cup of tea, find a cozy spot, and tune in to the Tilt Parenting Podcast. It's a great way to gain new insights and feel connected to a community of parents who are navigating similar paths.
Remember, every child's journey is unique, and with the right support and understanding, we can help our kids shine in their own special ways.
Here are a couple of other podcast episodes I think families might enjoy:
You can search the episodes by relevant topics for your family such as:
If you are struggling with your child’s sleep
If you’ve been hesitating, wondering if sleep coaching is right for you, let me reassure you: the hardest part is deciding to start. From there, with expert guidance and your dedication, the progress will come quickly. This is your chance to transform your life in a way few other things can.
Ready to take the leap? Let’s talk about how sleep coaching can create your family’s transformation. You deserve this. Your baby deserves this. And your future self will thank you.
Let’s start with an easy first step, schedule a Sleep Strategy Session so me, you and your partner can have an 1 hr long zoom session so I can properly assess the sleep situation and determine if you need one-on-one sleep coaching support.
Let’s get your baby sleeping—and get YOU your sanity back.
If you are still wondering if I can help, please know I do NOT advocate 'cry-it-out'. I am a Gentle Sleep Coach. If you want to learn about my guilt-free and gentle process, please go to these links.
The Blissful Baby Stairway to Sleep
Please join my Sleep is Bliss Tribe in Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn so we can stay connected and you can continue to get amazing resources on sleep and family wellness.
Sleep is Bliss, Let's Get you more!
Sleep Coaching with Cultural Humility: Support Without Judgment
At Blissful Baby Sleep Coaching, I often meet parents who whisper:
“I want sleep help but not cry it out.”
“Can I do sleep training without guilt?”
“I don’t want to tell my family we’re sleep training.”
These aren’t unusual fears—they’re incredibly common. For many families, sleep coaching is not “the norm” in their community or culture.
Parents want rest, peace, and balance, but they’re afraid of being judged or going against family traditions.
This is why cultural humility is at the heart of my coaching approach.
What Cultural Humility Means in Sleep Coaching
Cultural humility means I don’t come in with a script or tell you there’s one “right” way. Instead, I listen, I learn about your values, and I create a plan that respects both your child and your culture.
It’s about:
Listening first: Understanding your parenting style, family expectations, and cultural traditions.
Respecting values: Honoring your beliefs around sleep, caregiving, and family rhythm.
Collaborating: Co-creating a plan that blends safe, gentle sleep science with your unique family values.
“I Want Sleep Help but Not Cry It Out”
Many parents come to me saying exactly this. You’ve probably heard that “cry it out” is the only way—but that’s simply not true.
With Gentle Sleep Coaching®, we work step-by-step, offering support and connection while guiding your child to learn independent sleep skills. You remain present and responsive, so your baby feels safe.
“Can I Do Sleep Training Without Guilt?”
Yes. 100% yes.
Guilt often comes from outside voices—family, friends, or cultural expectations.
But wanting sleep coaching doesn’t mean you’re abandoning your baby. It means you’re caring for your child and your family. When sleep improves, everyone benefits—your baby, you, and your relationships.
“Baby Sleep Coach Who Respects My Parenting Style”
That’s me.
Your family’s culture, parenting style, and values aren’t obstacles—they’re the foundation.
Whether your family prioritizes co-sleeping, independent sleep, room-sharing, or something in between, my role is to help you make it intentional, safe, and sustainable.
“I Don’t Want to Tell My Family We’re Sleep Training”
This is a fear I hear often. Many families keep sleep coaching private because it’s not understood—or accepted—by relatives or their community. That’s okay.
Our work together is confidential and supportive. You don’t owe anyone outside your immediate family an explanation.
“Sleep Help That Isn’t Against My Culture”
Sleep coaching is not one-size-fits-all. Together, we’ll adapt methods to align with your traditions. For example:
Honoring co-sleeping as part of your culture while reducing night wakings.
Creating safe room-sharing setups that allow everyone to rest.
Supporting naps and bedtime routines that fit into extended family caregiving roles.
“Supportive Baby Sleep Coach Who Listens”
Sleep coaching only works if you feel heard. That’s why I take time to understand what you’ve already tried, what matters most to you, and where you feel stuck.
Together, we create solutions that work in real life—not a textbook.
“Baby Sleep Coaching Without Judgment”
This is the core of Blissful Baby Sleep Coaching. Parents often carry shame, guilt, or fear when they arrive. My role isn’t to judge where you are—it’s to help you move forward with clarity, compassion, and confidence.
Final Word
Choosing sleep coaching when it’s not the “norm” takes courage. At Blissful Baby Sleep Coaching, you’ll find a partner who listens, respects, and supports your unique journey.
Because you don’t have to choose between your culture and your child’s sleep—you can honor both.
Take the First Step
If you’ve been hesitating, wondering if sleep coaching is right for you, let me reassure you: the hardest part is deciding to start. From there, with expert guidance and your dedication, the progress will come quickly. This is your chance to transform your life in a way few other things can.
Ready to take the leap? Let’s talk about how sleep coaching can create your family’s transformation. You deserve this. Your baby deserves this. And your future self will thank you.
Let’s start with an easy first step, schedule a Sleep Strategy Session so me, you and your partner can have an 1 hr long zoom session so I can properly assess the sleep situation and determine if you need one-on-one sleep coaching support.
Let’s get your baby sleeping—and get YOU your sanity back.
If you are still wondering if I can help, please know I do NOT advocate 'cry-it-out'. I am a Gentle Sleep Coach. If you want to learn about my guilt-free and gentle process, please go to these links.
The Blissful Baby Stairway to Sleep
Please join my Sleep is Bliss Tribe in Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn so we can stay connected and you can continue to get amazing resources on sleep and family wellness.
Sleep is Bliss, Let's Get you more!